I want to say something about MisBehaving Women, that perhaps I should have said from the beginning… I have posted a lot of political stuff here, there and everywhere and I think that people have gotten the wrong idea as to what I think that feminism really is…
The stay at home mom who advocates for her child is a MisBehaving woman.
The waitress who serves you at your favorite eatery is a MisBehaving woman.
The women who serve in the state houses and in Congress, regardless of political party, are MisBehaving women.
Women who follow their religious and cultural beliefs and wear a hijab, are MisBehaved women.
We are ALL MisBehaved women.
Why? Because we all enjoy the freedoms that have been won for us by the
women that have come before us. The women who were force feed to gain
us the right to vote, the women who stood silently outside of the White
House, day after day, in early 1900’s, dressed in white. The women who
went to jail trying to pass on information about family planning,
because it was deemed to be pornographic information. Women who helped
to organize unions, after the Triangle Shirtwaist Factory fire, in 1911.
The women who worked on the 13th, 14th and 15th Amendments, and then
backed down when it was deemed too controversial to include women’s
suffrage in the 15th Amendment.
We women are our own worst enemies,
you know. We are taught from an early age to be ashamed. Ashamed of our
bodies and how they work. Ashamed of how our bodies look. Ashamed to
speak up and to speak out. Ashamed of asking for help, and when we do,
of getting that help. Ashamed of our sexuality or lack thereof. Ashamed
wanting to succeed. Ashamed of wanting to stay home or of going back to
work after having children.
And we are taught to police ourselves
and each other. To judge each other in the harshest of terms. We are
terrified that when we look at another woman, we may be reflected in
what we see.
There is no privilege in being a woman. I hear all
about the “privilege of white women”, and I have yet to see it. Other
than white women making a few pennies more, a single white woman with
kids is still working 50+ hours a week trying to make it in this world,
still being denied food stamps, still being denied AFDC and medical
assistance. The highest incidence of poverty is in the white population.
So… where is that privilege again?
As a group, we need to stick
together. Quit letting them split us apart. Black, white, Asian, Latina,
Christian, Muslim, Pagan or Jew, Gay, Straight or Multi, peach, purple
or deep, right brown…. Why should we let them define our rights for us?
Why should we let them define our children’s rights? Our rights are
clearly defined by the Constitution. Everyone should read it, at least
once in their lives. Personally, I have a copy on my e-reader, and a
soft bound copy on my desk. I also have a copy of the Declaration of
Independence and the Federalist Papers (this was the “message boards”
[editorials], how the Founding Fathers literally debated the
Constitution, in the newspapers).
We NEED to know these things. We
NEED to know where we came from to understand where we are going. We
need more MisBehaved Women to understand that they are truly MisBehaved
and stand up and be counted. To shout from the roof tops that they are
not going to take it anymore, that they are no longer going to let a
room full of men tell them that their bodies are up for grabs (literally
and figuratively). That the health of their children Is more important
than whether or not the Navy gets another aircraft carrier that they
keep telling Congress that they don’t want. (They want money to spend on
their people and training…) That funding for the Center for Disease
Control is more important than the “Southern White House” and golfing
trips every weekend at a million dollars a pop. That clean water and air
is more important than any oil pipeline that gives only temporary jobs.
This is what feminism and MisBehaving is all about. This is what
we do, collectively. This is being pro-life and pro-choice and Democrat
and Republican. It does not matter. What matters is that we, as women
are working together, as a group. Because this is how change is made.